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The Future Mrs. Townie

I’m coming back. Not to this blog, I’m in the works of creating a new blog. A blog that makes me so excited for the present and the future.

In the past few months I have missed blogging dearly. I still read up on everyone in my Google Reader but I find the writing outlet I used to have here, the motivation I found from active bloggers and commenters, and the connection to other bloggers has left a real void. I miss it. I miss all of you. I miss writing.

But I have one big update.

On December 8th, 2011 the Townie asked me to marry him.

After a few sobs, my answer was OF COURSE!

In less than one year, on December 1, 2012 we’re getting married in a beautiful New England barn.

The next year is going to be one amazing whirlwind ride. And I really hope to share it with all of you. I’ll be back with the new link when it’s ready to go.

Happy Holidays all! xoxo

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I had a wonderful weekend with the Townie. It was his sister’s wedding weekend so I spent Friday getting mani/pedis with the Bridal party (incredibly sweet they asked me to join), then came the rehearsal dinner, the wedding, the after-party and a quick stop to say goodbyes on Sunday morning.

I really lucked out with the Townie’s family. I can’t explain how wonderful and welcoming they all are. They all said such nice things to me over the weekend and never for a second did I feel like I didn’t belong.  There may have even been “sister in-law” and “cousin in-law” jokes made my way 🙂

No, that’s not my hand. But if he likes it so much, it’s going to be time pretty soon that he puts a ring on it. 😛

Side note: if you met someone through online dating (like I did with the Townie) would you tell people how you met? Both the Townie and I had no qualms telling our friends that we met online yet somehow when it came time to tell our family, work folks and acquaintances, we found ourselves saying we met at a bar.

Anyway, yesterday I was absolutely exhausted. I napped for almost 3 hours in the afternoon, stuffed my face with pizza, and went back to bed.

Instead of coming off the high of the past few days I’m feeling a bit stressed, a bit exhausted, and pulled too thin in too many directions.

All I can do is get back on track for the next few days and stop making so many social plans!

30 minutes strength training
20 minutes cardio
Cooking dinner & fall tv shows! What’s good on Mondays…?

3 mile run
Cooking dinner and BIGGEST LOSER

Spin class

AM 30 min strength training
Making a jambalaya dinner for the Townie, my BFF and her husband
(*Will save Vampire Diaries  for a non-townie night)

2 mile run
Cooking a birthday dinner for the Townie

In sad news my Garmin forerunner doesn’t seem to want to charge. I would really like to start wearing a heart rate monitor for calories burned but I need one that isn’t large, doesn’t necessary need a chest band and is pretty accurate. Help?

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Yesterday was one of the most content days I have had in months.

It wasn’t because I accidentally slept through my third triathlon, no, that caused some sobbing at 6:40am.

It wasn’t because of my horrific 9/11 memories.

Instead it was because I was 100% present in the day.

The Townie and I went back to sleep after my tear fest. We woke up at 9:15am and lounged around in bed.

We walked to a nearby coffee shop and drank iced coffees and ate delicious bagel sandwiches. We chatted about our fantasy football teams that would be playing later.

I simmered an amazing buffalo chicken dip in my crock pot – a mix of rotisserie chicken, cream cheese, blue cheese dressing and franks red-hot sauce. The townie scooped heapfuls out with french bread.

I did 5 giant loads of laundry.

I cleaned out my entire closet – creating piles for goodwill, and refolding everything I was keeping. I now have empty cabinets.

I did every single dish that was in my sink, 3 hours worth of hand scrubbing.

I cooked amazing quesadillas for dinner.

Flour tortillas
1 chopped onion
1 can Hatch New Mexico green chiles
Half shredded rotisserie chicken breast
A handful of mexican blend shredded cheese

The townie ate his within minutes, claiming it was delicious.

Football games played on my tv for most of the afternoon, and in between cleaning and cooking I watched as my fantasy players racked up points for me in my family and my work league.

I traded texts with a few friends confirming week and weekend plans and just saying hi.

I read the first bit of Stolen Life and I already know it’s going to have me hooked.

Everything I did yesterday, was about yesterday. I was living  in the present. I hardly touched the computer (except to play a little Words with Friends in between cleaning).

Sometimes I get so caught up in planning and doing. I overload my plate to the point where when I’m doing one thing, I’m already thinking about the when and hows of the next thing.

It’s good to live in the present. It’s peaceful. I felt truly content yesterday. 🙂



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Let me start by saying that I was a tiny bit cranky and overwhelmed last week, could you tell?

I knew the Townie and I would be fine, but I like to be honest (maybe too honest) on this blog and last week I was letting some of the little things get to me. I love when I get comments that knock me out of my moods.

Sometimes as a control freak it’s hard to let go of the schedule that I have in mind. I need to learn to relax a little when it comes to that.

I also need to voice my need for personal space and what I deem as priorities more. Both the Townie and I are still learning the best ways to communicate with each other. I’m glad I found someone who is willing to work through that.

Anyway, I spent this past weekend in Stowe, Vermont with the Townie. Saturday included ziplining through mountains.

Yup, that’s me!

Saturday afternoon we rented bikes and biked 11 miles along a river path.

Saturday night I ate the most amazing flatbread pizza of my life. Blue cheese, bacon, and honey = food heaven. I will absolutely post that picture later.

Sunday included a 2 hour hike mid-day to a beautiful pond at the top of a mountain. Rain kept us inside eating (another flatbread pizza) and drinking wine at the resort that night.

And today is Tuesday which means a short work week, woohoo!

I’m spending tonight in Rhode Island getting to catch-up with my family and one of my Florida cousins who happens to be a bestie. Totally worth the super early drive back into Boston tomorrow morning.

This week is already off to a great start 🙂

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The Townie is a police officer in a town that is about 45 minutes from where I live. To be honest the typical downfalls that people assume (or you hear about) from being in a relationship with a police officer just isn’t the case with the Townie at this point.

The number one thing that many people worry about is drinking. So many officers will come home after a day or night at work, crack open beers, and zone out. Or worse head to a bar with other officers and stay until they no longer feel.

The Townie seems to be pretty healthy mentally and physically for this job. He isn’t a big drinker, he’s careful about keeping his emotions in check, and in the few years he has been doing it – he’s seen a lot of horrible things but he isn’t hardened by it. When I asked if he ever needed it, would he go to a support group or therapist, he answered yes.

Others warned about the off schedules and hours. That there’d be nights I wouldn’t see him and days I wish I could. Truthfully, it’s been a blessing. I need my nights to myself. I need my time with my friends. When 3 nights a week he works 3-11pm or an 11pm-7am shift, it gives me space and time.

Last night however was the first time I could feel the toll of his schedule on our relationship. He worked Monday and Tuesday night 3-11pm and slept at home since I asked for a few nights of space.

Wednesday night he worked a double, 3pm-7am straight, and then went directly to court to testify. He wasn’t finished until 3pm. That’s 24 hours straight being awake and working.

He arrived at my apartment at 4pm and I sent him a text that I was planning on spinning after work but I’d be home around 730ish. He immediately responded with a text about us hiking this weekend so was spinning a good idea?

My immediate reaction was anger and annoyance. I went to spinning 2 days after my triathlon, I think I can go spinning and then hike 2 days later. Then I was even more annoyed because it felt like he was saying I shouldn’t do something that I had scheduled and wanted to do.

I knew I was overreacting. I calmed down and tried to remember he was exhausted.

He napped and I got home around 6pm after deciding to skip spinning. I knew I had a little chip on my shoulder for deciding to not work out but I tried to brush it off. I cooked us dinner and we picked my fantasy football draft for work and then started watching 24.

I knew he was almost in a coma state from being so tired. I knew he wanted to get into bed, have some fun, then pass out as soon as possible rather than watching episodes of 24.

But 24 is addicting. And I was being selfish and wanted to zone out after the past week of work. So I pushed to watch 3 episodes of 24 and then we got into bed. He was tired and irritated and started to pick a fight. First turning his back to me, then slamming the covers down and loudly going to the bathroom, and then tossing and turning before making comments.

I don’t deal well with passive aggressive. I also don’t respond when adults act like children in relationships. If you want to talk, let’s talk it all out. But having a hissy fit sends me into a rage pretty quickly.

We fought until 12:15am, until we both gave in and went to sleep.

I know we’ll be OK. I know that I need to lighten up and put him as a priority in my life, because he is. But somehow we also need to find a better way to communicate.

Sometimes relationships aren’t easy.

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Maybe I should have saved yesterday’s post title for today.

Today I found out that one of my coworkers (from another office) is leaving.

He’s my sanity at my job. My peer. My comic relief. And my friend. 😦

I know it’ll all work out in the end, and there’s always going to be turnover at jobs and in life really, but I’m really going to miss him.

I cancelled my plans for tonight. For the first time in a while, and really the only chance for a while, I am going home after work, stretching myself on my yoga mat, cooking some dinner and watching my netflix disc 1 of season 3 of TRUE BLOOD!

And on a fitness note, last night the Townie and I went swimming! It was really fun to take someone “lap swimming” for their first time. I remember how humbling my first true swim was.  The Townie who happens to be in what I consider peak shape, had a rough time with laps.

After 2 laps he took a 5 minute break. Then he did 3 more laps, each one with a 2-3 minute break in between. Then he promptly said he thought he was going to puke.

I think it really surprised him how tough it is. And now it’s a challenge for him so I easily convinced him to come again with me on Friday! 🙂

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Today is just one of those days. I’m hormonal. That causes irritability and rage combined with a horrible headache. Add in a few people at work who are acting as if I am their secretary today and then getting a backhanded compliment from someone. It’s driving me just a bit nuts that since my soon to be promotion announcement, it feels like I’m being pushed a step back.

ANYWAY, as much as I want to whine, and eat cheese fries in a cold ac’ed comfy bed while watching Pretty Little Liars…I won’t be.

So here’s what’s great about today:

1. I woke up feeling rested. Thank God for a night under 85 degrees so I could actually sleep.

2. I had a nice catch-up lunch with my friend V. We’ve felt distant for a while and seriously it was nice to feel reconnected again.

3. I did a basic cleaning of my apartment last night along with 3 loads of laundry. Going home today into a clean-ish apartment is going to feel amazing.

4. I am seeing the Townie tonight. We’re swimming together (I really believe the benefits of working out together as a couple) then having dinner and relaxing. I’m more than looking forward to some cuddle sessions with him 😉

5. 3 more days to this work week. This weekend I have 3 besties from NY coming up for touristy Boston fun. Then next week I have training. Then the week after that…VACATION WITH MY GIRLFRIENDS AT THE BEACH!!!


 photo from weheartit.com

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